It wasn’t that I didn’t want a partner ever again—I very much love being in (good) relationships. It was that I was truly enjoying the experience of living as though I was enough instead of buying into the belief that because I didn’t have a partner, there was something off-putting, wrong, or unattractive about me. It took some time to get used to, as all habits do, but I wouldn’t give that time up for anything.

Here are the questions that were born from my happily single and exploratory years. I use them with my design clients, friends, and even myself.